Free Resources for Men
Resources for NJ Fathers Facing an Unexpected Pregnancy
Becoming a dad earlier than expected can stir up a mix of emotions; shock, worry, excitement, or even confusion. Whatever you’re feeling, you don’t have to face this journey alone.
Here are some practical steps and resources to help you stand by your partner and make informed decisions together.
1
Acknowledge What You’re Feeling
Everyone reacts differently when they learn they’re going to be a parent. It’s okay to feel uncertain or overwhelmed.
Before you dive into problem-solving:
- Give yourself a moment to process the news.
- Write down your thoughts or talk them through with a trusted friend.
- Remember that admitting fear or doubt doesn’t make you weak—it shows you care about what happens next.
2
Talk Openly With Your Partner
Effective support starts with two-way communication. Your partner is experiencing this, too, and honest conversations build trust.
Tips for a supportive dialogue:
- Set aside uninterrupted time to share your feelings.
- Ask how she’s doing and listen without jumping to solutions.
- Avoid blame—focus on “we” instead of “you” or “me.”
- Revisit the conversation as often as you both need. 
3
Managing Money Concerns
Worries about expenses are common, especially if you’re juggling bills or schooling. There are free services available to ease the financial side of things.
Resources you can tap into:
- Free early ultrasound scans to confirm dates and health.
- Referrals for medical care that won’t cost you out of pocket.
- Budget workshops and job-training programs in our community.
- Housing assistance or education support if you’re still in school.
- Taking these steps shows you’re committed—even if your wallet feels tight.
4
Building Emotional Readiness
Stepping into a new role takes time. You don’t have to have all the answers today.
Small ways to prepare:
- Set achievable goals. Find a steady shift at work, finish a class, or save a small emergency fund.
- Join a young dads group or peer support network.
- Talk one-on-one with a counselor who understands fatherhood.
- Each milestone, however small, boosts your confidence.
5
Confronting Your Fears
Fear often comes from uncertainty. Facing it head-on will make you stronger, both for yourself and your partner.
Strategies to overcome fear:
- Learn about pregnancy stages and what to expect at each visit.
- Hear stories from fathers who navigated similar challenges.
- Focus on what you can control today, like scheduling that ultrasound.
- Acting despite fear is what real courage looks like.
Special Considerations for Teens
If you or your partner are still in your teens, you might worry about school, friends, or how your family will react. You deserve support tailored to your situation.
Key steps for younger dads:
- Ask about programs that let you keep up with schoolwork while becoming a parent.
- Invite a coach, teacher, or mentor to be part of your support circle.
- Check whether you need parental consent for medical appointments—and how to involve a guardian.
No matter your age, help is within reach.
Our Free Services for You and Your Partner
Solutions Health and Pregnancy Center offers a judgment-free space where you can both find answers:
- Zero-cost ultrasound scans to confirm pregnancy and see your baby’s heartbeat.
- One-on-one sessions with trained advocates to explore every option.
- Referrals for community resources: prenatal care, parenting classes, baby clothing, and more.
We’re here to walk alongside you step by step.
Next Steps: Schedule Your Appointment
Bring your partner for a free early pregnancy ultrasound and personalized advocacy session. Together, we’ll answer your questions and help you plan with confidence.
Please note this is only a request.
Your selection is not confirmed until you hear from a Solutions staff member.
To ensure we can book an ultrasound, you must include
- The first day of your last menstrual period
- Any other information you are looking for
What To Expect
- After your appointment is confirmed, mobile forms will be sent to you through text. This enables our appointments to go smoothly.
- One of our client advocates will meet with you privately to discuss the options you have and the services we offer. Once your pregnancy test is positive, you will undergo an ultrasound with our licensed RDMS.
- If you are uninsured, we can provide medical and material referrals and are always here to be a resource, even after you leave our doors.
- Due to HIPAA, recording is not allowed on the premises.
**please schedule on the hour (9:00, 10:00 etc)